yes!!! this captured what ive been thinking about but not sure how to verbalise as of late. im constantly seeing women get called ‘bops’ when the reason for insult is either literally nothing or completely irrelevant to her sexual activity - makes me so mad when men argue traditional sexism doesnt exist anymore when really its just taken on a new face
in my opinion having too many body counts is something that should not be approved in both genders. I wouldn't want to date with a men who has too many body counts. I think sexuality should be sacred and private in both genders
Its so crazy to think how we have returned to a Victorian view of sex after inventions like birth control, std testing and more to make sex safer and more accessible… when religion couldn’t reach us, the primadonna-whore complex prevailed
One thing I’m coming to understand is that Christianity attempts to try to eradicate pleasure. To feel pleasure is a sin. Therefore sex can not exist in truly a pleasurable form to them or it’s bad. It has to result in some human duty, as if it’s a responsibility, to justify the action of engaging in it. I’ve also heard radical Christians claim this is why they do not support sane sex couples, because it is sex for pleasure. Which is I guess inherently corrupt or bad.
In Christianity sex is acceptable because it’s a Christians duty to reproduce. Generally speaking sex for pleasure is not promoted because to feel pleasure is to feel desire and desire/lust is a sin.
would a genuine desire for marriage and children be playing into the men's hands? It almost seems like they're a bad desire to have. I mean even though most men are rotten motherhood and being a wife are beautiful life experiences no?
Having a genuine desire for a good marriage isn’t bad definitely. Marriage and motherhood is a beautiful thing to look forward to! I think the piece is just basically highlighting that for women that’s the only option we’re given. It’s the only time a woman is seen that she has truly accomplished something. wanting to experience motherhood and marriage is a good thing. But what if that’s not all I want for myself? why does marriage and being a mother have to be my whole Identity. why is it when I don’t fall into that category, i’m looked at as a “problem”. that’s what I understand from the writer. Women should be free to choose a path, even if God forbid she decides marriage and motherhood isn’t all she wants for herself.
So many men assume that being a “ whore” is worse than being a criminal. I have seen them equating rape with cheating ( only if the woman is cheating)
They treat and think of whores as terrorists. Every obscene word in there diary is whipped out to turn this woman ( human) into something they considered a subhuman ( whore)
Which is all pretty ironic because in the patriarchy, “ whore” will always exist to appease the fantasies of men.
A woman doesn't even has to have a high body count to become a whore.
Also important to note that the actual whore (sex worker) industry exists *because* of men. Men are the major consumers of the sex work industry, and still they act hypocritical like it has nothing to do with them. Sex work wouldn’t exist if MEN didn’t want cheap, easy access to sex. It’s an industry created for, and by men.
I don't know I think people love to label things they don't understand and can not have self expression connecting touching and intimacy make some vulnerable which is a scary place for those who watch from the sidelines judgements are boomerangs into their broken mirrors. Sorry long text peace and joy to you
This is the first time I've ever heard of term "whore" being applied like this. To me it always has the meaning of a highly sexually active woman who has a large body count. And she also believes in a lot of casual intercourse.
Ummmm you ate that! This was so good!!
yes!!! this captured what ive been thinking about but not sure how to verbalise as of late. im constantly seeing women get called ‘bops’ when the reason for insult is either literally nothing or completely irrelevant to her sexual activity - makes me so mad when men argue traditional sexism doesnt exist anymore when really its just taken on a new face
YESS !!! I wrote my first post on my experience with this. I love this so much
in my opinion having too many body counts is something that should not be approved in both genders. I wouldn't want to date with a men who has too many body counts. I think sexuality should be sacred and private in both genders
Just because someone has a high body count doesn’t mean they don’t hold sex as something sacred. Some people just don’t think that matters.
Its so crazy to think how we have returned to a Victorian view of sex after inventions like birth control, std testing and more to make sex safer and more accessible… when religion couldn’t reach us, the primadonna-whore complex prevailed
One thing I’m coming to understand is that Christianity attempts to try to eradicate pleasure. To feel pleasure is a sin. Therefore sex can not exist in truly a pleasurable form to them or it’s bad. It has to result in some human duty, as if it’s a responsibility, to justify the action of engaging in it. I’ve also heard radical Christians claim this is why they do not support sane sex couples, because it is sex for pleasure. Which is I guess inherently corrupt or bad.
This is not true. In Christianity, sex in marriage is acceptable.
In Christianity sex is acceptable because it’s a Christians duty to reproduce. Generally speaking sex for pleasure is not promoted because to feel pleasure is to feel desire and desire/lust is a sin.
The more audacious I need to become!! ♥️
as someone who was 12 when i was called a “whore” for the first time… thank you.
I wish i could write like you, so captivating and relatable. Absolutely nail it every time
would a genuine desire for marriage and children be playing into the men's hands? It almost seems like they're a bad desire to have. I mean even though most men are rotten motherhood and being a wife are beautiful life experiences no?
Having a genuine desire for a good marriage isn’t bad definitely. Marriage and motherhood is a beautiful thing to look forward to! I think the piece is just basically highlighting that for women that’s the only option we’re given. It’s the only time a woman is seen that she has truly accomplished something. wanting to experience motherhood and marriage is a good thing. But what if that’s not all I want for myself? why does marriage and being a mother have to be my whole Identity. why is it when I don’t fall into that category, i’m looked at as a “problem”. that’s what I understand from the writer. Women should be free to choose a path, even if God forbid she decides marriage and motherhood isn’t all she wants for herself.
Oooh I see thank you for engaging with me
madonna-whore complex resurgence at its finest 😭
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So many men assume that being a “ whore” is worse than being a criminal. I have seen them equating rape with cheating ( only if the woman is cheating)
They treat and think of whores as terrorists. Every obscene word in there diary is whipped out to turn this woman ( human) into something they considered a subhuman ( whore)
Which is all pretty ironic because in the patriarchy, “ whore” will always exist to appease the fantasies of men.
A woman doesn't even has to have a high body count to become a whore.
She just has to make a man angry.
Also important to note that the actual whore (sex worker) industry exists *because* of men. Men are the major consumers of the sex work industry, and still they act hypocritical like it has nothing to do with them. Sex work wouldn’t exist if MEN didn’t want cheap, easy access to sex. It’s an industry created for, and by men.
I don't know I think people love to label things they don't understand and can not have self expression connecting touching and intimacy make some vulnerable which is a scary place for those who watch from the sidelines judgements are boomerangs into their broken mirrors. Sorry long text peace and joy to you
Great piece
This is the first time I've ever heard of term "whore" being applied like this. To me it always has the meaning of a highly sexually active woman who has a large body count. And she also believes in a lot of casual intercourse.