So, I always liked every year better than the next. If any age was the golden age for me it was 30s. In my thirties, I had some confidence in who I'd chosen to be and some money to do it. Yes, the 20s are the age of possibilities. The 40s were a drudge and a blur, but I had older parents and one who died in my 20s, so was dealing with the remaining aging parent and young kids in the same decade (which if I have any advice for what I know now - if your mom is moderately sane, enjoy your adult relationship with her, I miss even her most annoying craziness now that my momma is gone; and mistakes are for every age, haha, wish my big mistakes were just for my 20s). But so far the fifties aren't bad. I don't dig my tummy and do miss the tummy I had in my twenties, but I was a nerd and invisible in my teens, so no big thing being invisible now- rather frees me up for those who always saw me.
21 and married, I think the concept of time for me askew. My husband and I are not planning for children any time soon. I'm currently looking into exploring my creative sensibilities. I think every decade is a decade to enjoy. Being happy with myself is the best I can do.
Turned 20 two weeks ago. I was so busy dreading turning this age, I started getting anxious about it barely a week after my 19th. Now, I'm anxious about 21. Everything feels cyclic, mundane, like the years are going by but they're not actually going by because I'm not doing anything with them but worrying. Hopefully, I'll get out of my own head and actually live soon.
My 20s don’t feel like my golden years but that’s okay. I just want to experience every negative and positive thing that life throws at me with the hopes that each year gets better.
At 37, I finally feel like i love myself. I've shed all the bullshit from family and society. I still have trauma I'm working through but it doesn't have me in a chokehold like it did before.
I'm excited for the rest of it.
But I remember feeling anxiety and frustration for not doing my twenties 'right' only to now have realized it's a misogynistic and patriarchal script to further strip women of their wholeness as humans with full experiences and vast desires.
I think the hottest years is when you focus on what you really want and you stop listening what everyone expects from you. And also to grow internally and when you collect experiences . But life is a roller coaster so there’s no defined path anyways
So, I always liked every year better than the next. If any age was the golden age for me it was 30s. In my thirties, I had some confidence in who I'd chosen to be and some money to do it. Yes, the 20s are the age of possibilities. The 40s were a drudge and a blur, but I had older parents and one who died in my 20s, so was dealing with the remaining aging parent and young kids in the same decade (which if I have any advice for what I know now - if your mom is moderately sane, enjoy your adult relationship with her, I miss even her most annoying craziness now that my momma is gone; and mistakes are for every age, haha, wish my big mistakes were just for my 20s). But so far the fifties aren't bad. I don't dig my tummy and do miss the tummy I had in my twenties, but I was a nerd and invisible in my teens, so no big thing being invisible now- rather frees me up for those who always saw me.
I think the minute I turned 30 was such a snap I suddenly became my most idgaf-self and its the most freeing.
In my mid-30s, this: "The hottest years are when you no longer care about who you’re supposed to be at all."
21 and married, I think the concept of time for me askew. My husband and I are not planning for children any time soon. I'm currently looking into exploring my creative sensibilities. I think every decade is a decade to enjoy. Being happy with myself is the best I can do.
The title, hello?!!? Amazing
As I’m nearing 29 this year, this was great to read. Thank you ♥️
You're only 20!!! Happy Birthday <3 You are so wise beyond your age I love your articles and find them so insightful in my 30s :)
Turned 20 two weeks ago. I was so busy dreading turning this age, I started getting anxious about it barely a week after my 19th. Now, I'm anxious about 21. Everything feels cyclic, mundane, like the years are going by but they're not actually going by because I'm not doing anything with them but worrying. Hopefully, I'll get out of my own head and actually live soon.
amazing ! thank you so much for sharing this
My 20s don’t feel like my golden years but that’s okay. I just want to experience every negative and positive thing that life throws at me with the hopes that each year gets better.
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At 37, I finally feel like i love myself. I've shed all the bullshit from family and society. I still have trauma I'm working through but it doesn't have me in a chokehold like it did before.
I'm excited for the rest of it.
But I remember feeling anxiety and frustration for not doing my twenties 'right' only to now have realized it's a misogynistic and patriarchal script to further strip women of their wholeness as humans with full experiences and vast desires.
I think the hottest years is when you focus on what you really want and you stop listening what everyone expects from you. And also to grow internally and when you collect experiences . But life is a roller coaster so there’s no defined path anyways
I wish I’d had your insight when I was only 20. You’re amazing! Thank you for your writing.