“Wanting a thigh gap more than I wanted to be alive.” That made me so sad because it’s true.
I think it’s also important to say: stopping the shrinking doesn’t come for free. The moment you stop softening yourself, there are REAL costs: Social, academic, economic. Getting labeled “difficult, uncooperative, less promotable”. You have to be willing to accept you’re less likely to get the job, the higher salary, etc when you stop playing the game. This isn’t just internal work, women are systemically punished for refusing to adhere to current beauty standards. It’s sickening.
This is so hauntingly beautiful. Your lines are incredible. 🩷
this is so good. i think it's something a lot of women can relate to, the unfortunate trap of the patriarchy which makes us feel this way
“Wanting a thigh gap more than I wanted to be alive.” That made me so sad because it’s true.
I think it’s also important to say: stopping the shrinking doesn’t come for free. The moment you stop softening yourself, there are REAL costs: Social, academic, economic. Getting labeled “difficult, uncooperative, less promotable”. You have to be willing to accept you’re less likely to get the job, the higher salary, etc when you stop playing the game. This isn’t just internal work, women are systemically punished for refusing to adhere to current beauty standards. It’s sickening.
This was the definition of fascinating bravo 👏
“When I wanted to be small and perfect and picked I left no other space to be anything else” EXACTLY
how do you get out of it?