Admitting hunger used to also be a struggle for me as a fat person! I always hated the idea of giving people the satisfaction of seeing me be “stereotypically fat” which encouraged a lot of restrictive behaviors. Loved this read thank you for sharing <3
I really needed to read this today. I ate pizza for the first time this year and immediately woke up in the middle of the night last night shaming myself. Thank you for reminding me that my cravings are not something to be ashamed of.
I loved this! Its tragic to me that so many of us woman feel betrayed by our bodies because we are not plastic dolls but humans with fluids, organs and mess. I remember feeling embarrassed about my body as young as four in a medical setting where I had to give urine. Even so young I knew that a “good girl” which I was didn’t associate body functions like urine.
I think you really hone in on the many meanings of the word hunger. Hunger is visceral. It’s all consuming. It demands to be felt no matter the time or situation. It’s a deep ache that dominates us and at time weakens us. Hunger is physical but it’s also emotional, sexual and intellectual. Hunger when really cut down is raw, unchecked desire and I think woman have been taught by the patriarchy to fear unchecked desire more than anything else. For years, it was common practice that woman just didn’t have desire. We are the receivers of desire and object to be acted upon but are not supposed to have any agency. Desire is powerful and it is fuel that can be harnessed for change whether that’s physical change, cultural, or emotional. Men freely explore their desires constantly and in doing so have shaped the world to morph to fit their needs. Giving into desire is ultimate submission. It’s living in the present, having visceral, transcendent experiences. These experiences shape us and the society we create. Our hunger tells us what’s important and what we as a society should value and place effort in. Women admitting we have hunger and desire innately threatens the patriarchy even hunger as basic as food fueling our bodies. If we can admit we want pizza or give into our desires for food we might feel more empowered to grab on to that hunger in other aspects of our life.
This is also a poem I love that relates to this topic a bit:
Admitting hunger used to also be a struggle for me as a fat person! I always hated the idea of giving people the satisfaction of seeing me be “stereotypically fat” which encouraged a lot of restrictive behaviors. Loved this read thank you for sharing <3
I really needed to read this today. I ate pizza for the first time this year and immediately woke up in the middle of the night last night shaming myself. Thank you for reminding me that my cravings are not something to be ashamed of.
I loved this! Its tragic to me that so many of us woman feel betrayed by our bodies because we are not plastic dolls but humans with fluids, organs and mess. I remember feeling embarrassed about my body as young as four in a medical setting where I had to give urine. Even so young I knew that a “good girl” which I was didn’t associate body functions like urine.
I think you really hone in on the many meanings of the word hunger. Hunger is visceral. It’s all consuming. It demands to be felt no matter the time or situation. It’s a deep ache that dominates us and at time weakens us. Hunger is physical but it’s also emotional, sexual and intellectual. Hunger when really cut down is raw, unchecked desire and I think woman have been taught by the patriarchy to fear unchecked desire more than anything else. For years, it was common practice that woman just didn’t have desire. We are the receivers of desire and object to be acted upon but are not supposed to have any agency. Desire is powerful and it is fuel that can be harnessed for change whether that’s physical change, cultural, or emotional. Men freely explore their desires constantly and in doing so have shaped the world to morph to fit their needs. Giving into desire is ultimate submission. It’s living in the present, having visceral, transcendent experiences. These experiences shape us and the society we create. Our hunger tells us what’s important and what we as a society should value and place effort in. Women admitting we have hunger and desire innately threatens the patriarchy even hunger as basic as food fueling our bodies. If we can admit we want pizza or give into our desires for food we might feel more empowered to grab on to that hunger in other aspects of our life.
This is also a poem I love that relates to this topic a bit:
https://youtu.be/zQucWXWXp3k?si=kDlpBpd5mqiRP07R
Wow… thank you